At Pilates we do this exercise called the cat. Imagine being on all fours, like the animal. In neutral, our teacher tells us our backs should be like a table top on which a drink could be placed without spilling. From there we curl in to stretch the lower back and then go into a dip to stretch the shoulders, then back to neutral. Neutral is the position in which your core is strong, and you are completely in balance. Sometimes it can take a bit of time to feel your way into this position – we’re so used to either hunching or tensing that we forget that state of balanced relaxation.
I think that being “authentic” is like that neutral state – natural, strong and balanced. This state is free from the sunken feeling – the victim mindset where we give away our power and apologise for our existence. It is also free from the need to appear bigger than we are, imposing our presence in a way that is strained, forced and unnatural.
Sometimes people shy away from changing any aspect of themselves because they feel this would not be authentic. When we coach, we challenge this assertion. To become more of our real self means daring to show up more. This may mean finding out things about ourselves that are hidden – to others as well as ourselves. It doesn’t feel comfortable to push the boundaries of our normal behaviour, since we mostly operate in a limited range, narrowed by years of conditioning. We need to stretch in order to grow, just like in Pilates. We can broaden the range of what is relaxed and strong by breathing through what is tight and tense. A conscious stretch warm-up on a regular basis makes all the difference – daily!
Try it out – stand, grounded and strong! Feel your personal power – a stance that is neither less or more than you are. Nothing can be more than the real you. The real you, neither shrunken or puffed up from fear, is enough.